Avoid clichés
“Stay
Positive” was something people kept saying throughout the treatment. Despite
good intentions, it quickly became apparent that unless you’ve experienced at
first hand, the horror and shock to the system that diagnosis and prolonged
treatment that the discovery of something so devastating to life such as cancer
leads to, words like this become scoffed at.
It’s
hard to stay positive when your body is pumped full of poison.
It’s
hard to stay positive when you’re having to sit helplessly in a room next to
the bathroom listening to your partner vomit repeatedly for 12 hours, when the
emergency doctor visits to try and make severe pains disappear only for them to
return.
It’s
hard to stay positive when you’re having to take your partner to the hospital
after a migraine so severe that even a chronic migraine sufferer is at the end
of her tether, then have to go to hospital only to stop twice on the way to be
spectacularly ill then spend three hours in Accident & Emergency only for
them to be able to do nothing.
It’s
hard to stay positive when your partner’s dignity, appearance and personality are
stripped to the core. The years of nurturing, the years of dry hair shampoo,
the years of hair straightening, the years of immaculate presentation, all
removed with just a few cuts of a hairdresser’s scissors. (Amanda decided to
shave her hair off and donate her hair to the Little Princess Trust which provides real-hair wigs to boys and girls across the UK and Ireland that
have sadly lost their own hair through cancer treatment. More info here http://www.littleprincesses.org.uk/)
So if
you don’t feel like “staying positive”, don’t.
Amanda's husband
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| Errmm...we don't really |
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